“Art is never finished, only abandoned.” – Leonardo da Vinci
Back in college, as a prerequisite to graduating, we were required to spend several hours in the Career Center. There were a variety of sessions we had to sit through, most of which revolved around how to write a cover letter and resume as well as job search strategies and networking. In one session on interview skills, our Career Counselor told us that a good way to answer the popular “greatest weakness” question is to say that you are a perfectionist.*
“Weakness?”, I thought. “That’s my greatest strength!”. Or so I thought.
I certainly did pride myself on being a perfectionist. It was simply how I was raised. In my household growing up, anything less than perfection in terms of schoolwork, job performance or behavior simply was not tolerated. Mistakes were not just frowned upon, but unacceptable. As I got older and moved away to college, I certainly internalized this, striving for 100% excellence in everything.
I was able to balance multiple internships, side work, and DJing/news-casting at the local radio station all while maintaining a very high GPA. Perfectly executing every task in front of me, I thought, was the path to success and happiness. However, I quickly found out that aiming for perfectionism is not only destructive but also counter-intuitive in the long run. Why?
Perfection doesn’t exist.
Sure, you can put on the facade of perfection and you can certainly obsess over the most minute of details in every single project you ever work on. But you won’t ever be perfect. Your work won’t ever be perfect.
Eventually, you will start to realize this, but, like an addict, you will continue to reach for that thing that is just beyond your grasp. And then procrastination, burn-out, stress and a crippling fear of failure or rejection (all common side-effects of perfectionism), will start to take over.
As I started dealing with those perfection related problems, I realized that chasing after such an unattainable goal was not only making me miserable, it was killing me.
The truth is, deep-down, I knew that perfectionism was a lie. I never, ever held any other person to the standard I held for myself. I loved seeing my friends and colleagues reach their goals and gain new skills and when they stumbled, I told them how these mistakes were simply life-lessons that would help them do better in the future. Physician, heal thyself.
I’m still learning that being less than perfect is just fine. In my more stressfed moments, many times on nights when my insomnia relentlessly keeps my awake, I have to remind myself that life will continue to have ups-and-downs, failures, successes and setbacks. And that’s OK.
To being super human, not superhuman,
*By the way, this was and still is horrible interview advise. Telling an entire group of students to give the same, canned, played-out answer to a common interview question is ridiculous. Seriously, don’t use this in your next job interview.